How to Prepare Your Kids for Family Photos

how to prepare your kids for Family Photos by Nashville family photographer Dolly Delong Photography

As a family photographer in Nashville, I’ve worked with many incredible families. We’ve had sessions in some of my favorite spots, and I always walk away grinning because we have fun. While talking with other photographers (and some families) about why that is, I realized that the prep I do with my families beforehand means we have a great time. Everyone knows what to expect – even the kids – so sessions become fun instead of stressful. So today, I wanted to share my tips on how to prepare your kids for family photos. Whether you’re a family about to have a session or a family photographer looking to help your clients, I hope these simple tips make a difference for you!

#1: Overcommunicate about your session.

Communicating with kids is a HUGE step in getting them prepped for a family session. But I’d say to take it a step further. Talk to them about your session a lot. Not just once or twice, but not right before you get in the car for your photos. As soon as you book, start working with your younger kids. Ask them to smile for you, create fun poses for them to practice, and continue to talk about family photos. It may seem like a lot of talking leading up to it, but the more your kids hear about someone taking their picture, the easier it will be.

#2: Offer incentives

Hey, I’m a mom too. Seriously, there’s NO shame in bribing them to cooperate. I’m not saying they need all the candy in the candy store, but tell them about doing something fun after the session – maybe picking up a dessert they love or an activity they’ve wanted to do. Whatever it is, find what motivates your kids and use it. I’ve seen it repeatedly where just the promise of something fun (and delicious) afterward can help them stay a bit happier through the photos. In our house, I’ve also noticed if I talk about it and let my son help me pick and pack whatever the treat is, he’s even more excited!

#3: Avoid blanket statements at the moment.

During family photos, it’s easy to get frustrated that kids aren’t cooperating. But first, let me tell you two things: I’ve seen it all, and we’ll make it work no matter what. One thing I know doesn’t work is to make blanket statements to your kids—things like, “We’ll NEVER go to grandma’s again” or along those lines. While I get the point, it creates a negative association with photos, making things difficult on the day off and in future sessions. Try to stick to something fun they can do afterward! And seriously, remember: as a mom, no tantrums or upset kid phases me during a session (I mean, I have kids too, please remember that 🥹!)

#4: Plan and be flexible.

The last tip is one you need to coordinate with your photographer, but it’s still essential. Plan and plan accordingly for your family. If you know your babies aren’t up for an entire session, book a mini-session instead! It’s way less time for them to stay on their best behavior. You can also work with your photographer to determine the timing of your session. Moving your sessions around nap time and bedtime is sometimes possible so everyone’s less grumpy. No matter what, kids will still be over the photos before long. It’s normal. Remember that if someone’s having a fit, it’s okay to take a short break and focus on the family members who are feeling OK. And, when it comes to kids, most photographers are willing to play music, make silly faces, or do whatever they can to help you! We all want the session to be great!

The bottom line is that kids are going to be kids. They’re amazing, a little unpredictable, and a ton of fun. That’s honestly why I LOVE family photography so much! But the reality is that kids will do what they want and have big emotions. There’s nothing wrong with either of those things. I never expect kids to behave in their best interests for all sessions. Just try to relax, enjoy your life stage during your photo session, and trust that your experienced family photographer will help you capture beautiful, timeless portraits, no matter what’s going on!

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